Happiness; How happy are you

How happy are you, is there a barometer to measure happiness? The argument of being happy, or born happy has been on for so long. And scientists happily work on getting statistical data to prove the intensity, experience and mode of happiness. I’m humored that we need to look upon numbers to determine the possibility of happiness. But I do believe that today, in the age of critical thinkers, we need an external support system, in the form of books, studies and gurus, to understand happiness.

Happiness is an experience within; stop looking for it outside oneself. Find a minute of silence in the day. Forget everything and just hear your within; your breathe. It will heal you in the measures that you can never understand.

Studies define happiness in various extents, and through various ways of lives we come across. These are the phases where we judge the magnitude of our happiness.

Children are born with the seed of happiness, but with the education system nowadays they are not experiencing it today. The strain, the competition and the expectation has driven them away from everyday happiness. How to help them is still a big question. But everything starts at home.

Parenting is the most demanding job of all. I haven’t experienced it yet, but I envy my parents. Like every relationship, there are stages in parenting. Having a child makes you happy, but being a new parent is agonizing at times. But we are good learners. However as you get older your life gives the clear picture. And we can work the relationships, of parent and the child, into the happy zone with understanding and trust.

An additional effort of knowing your neighbors also helps a great deal in our day to day happiness ordeal. The more we connect with our neighbors’ aka surroundings the more happy and secure we feel. In fact studies shows that a happy neighbor will make our life 34% happier. Connecting face to face in a community prosper our social existence.

Another big factor that seeds happiness is money; it is hard to live a happy life without money. In fact I believe it’s the second closest important things in anyone’s life after family. Families fall apart in the tiff on monetary disputes. But can money buy happiness? Perhaps it does, but to what point that is debatable. What is the reality of happiness; food, healthcare, mobility. And when they are achieved are we really happy? After the necessity, there comes over estimation over reality, if a bigger house, or a new better car, and the magnitude of happiness grows wider.

People equate happiness to things, not understanding that impact of things dies with the course of time, if we talk in numbers 6-9 months at most. But not the life experience they are priceless and everlasting. We have to understand that happiness comes from the baseline.